How to Fuck Up

I'm not usually very linky, because what could possibly be more interesting than the inside of my head? However, this is a fabulous post. It is not actually about how to fuck up. I, for one, need no help in that area. It does tell you what to do when you DO fuck up, and if everyone followed this process, the world would be a much happier place.

I'll wait here while you go check it out.

Comments

[Judy]

Yep. This works quite well, although steps 3 & 4 do rely on the apologisee being prepared to help you to understand what it really is that you did wrong and being interested in allowing you to make amends, rather than having huge amounts invested in simply making you feel bad (to the point where they'd rather have a total disaster than allow you to do damage control, because a disaster would make you feel worse). I speak from recent personal experience here. If anyone has a fool-proof test for recognising people with really, really fragile egos before agreeing to have anything to do with them, I'd love to hear about it.

[Christy]

Judy -

That would be a very useful test indeed. Sadly, I've mostly discovered this by either observing or getting stuck in situations like you described. And yes, really resolving a situation is contingent on both parties actually wanting to see that happen. All you can do is take care of your end of things, and if the other person won't accept that or talk to you -well, not a lot you can do, which sucks, but at least you can sleep with a clear conscience.